Why I Chose To Be a Men's Relationship Life Coach

I vividly remember when I consciously made the decision that I wanted to focus my coaching practice on helping men navigate the complex world of personal relationships.

I was on a Zoom call with two fellow coaches and we were talking about the importance of having a clear image in our heads of who we were serving and what our ideal client looked like. We discussed the significance of being clear on what our niche was, what we as coaches bring to the table while holding space for others and the ways we could make the biggest impact.

With all these thoughts swirling in my head, it was in this moment where I did a self-analysis and the epiphany of wanting to help other men hit. I spent the rest of the night thinking it through and I eventually landed on the five reasons why focusing my attention on wanting to help men as a relationship life coach made sense for me.

1. Personal Transformation: My own journey through relationships has been a transformative one and I’ve experienced firsthand the positive impact of embracing authenticity, demonstrating vulnerability, establishing boundaries, acceptance and practicing self-love. The lessons learned have heightened my perspective and have brought me to the realization that everything begins and ends with me. By becoming a men's relationship life coach, I want to help other men undergo a similar transformation and create fulfilling, authentic connections.

2. Addressing Societal Expectations: I fully recognize that men often face societal expectations and stereotypes that hinder their ability to express their emotions and be their true selves in relationships. If you drill it down even deeper, it’s a starker reality for black men. Discussing true feelings and emotions isn’t something widely practiced in the West Indian culture and was something that I had to learn to do. More than anything, I want to challenge these expectations and provide guidance to men in breaking free from societal constraints and expectations that have kept them from expressing themselves freely and openly.

3. Empathy and Understanding: My own experiences have given me a deep sense of empathy and understanding for the challenges men face in relationships. While I can relate to their struggles, fears, and insecurities because I’ve had my share of losses, I also know what it’s like to experience extreme joy and happiness because I’ve been there too. I believe that these collection of experiences will allow me to connect with other men on a profound level. This empathy enables me to create a space of trust and safety which is key in any coaching relationship.

4. Filling a Gap in Support: I truly believe that a gap exists in terms of support available specifically for black men in the realm of relationships. While there a ton of resources for relationship advice and more and more spaces are being created to have mental health conversations, the avenues tailored toward men aren’t the same. I believe that I’m fulfilling this need by providing a safe space for men to explore their emotions, develop emotional intelligence, and cultivate healthy relationships.

5. Making a Positive Impact: I was once told that I’m the nicest guy in every room that I’m in. I take great pride in that because ultimately I have a strong desire to make a positive impact on the lives of others. I want to brighten the experience for those who I encounter and by helping other men navigate the complexities of personal relationships and guide them toward personal growth, emotional well-being, and authentic connections, I’m fulfilling my personal mission. My goal is to empower men to lead happier, more fulfilling lives by embracing their true selves and fostering healthy relationships.

If any of these reasons resonate with you and you’re interested in discussing further, let’s set up a discovery call and chat.