Episode #188: Outsmarting the Imposter Syndrome Featuring Tara Halliday
“The Imposter Syndrome is the secret feeling of being a fraud, being not quite good enough and having doubt when you're not. So it's when you're capable and you're competent but yet you still hold yourself back. It's a bit of a mystery for some reason, you fear somebody's going to find you out and you keep it a secret.”
Tara Halliday
Imposter Syndrome Specialist | Holistic Therapist | Author | Coach
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As humans, we all crave acceptance and love from those around us. We desire validation and approval from others to reinforce that we are enough and worthy of their attention. But what if we were able to find that validation and worth within ourselves? What if we could cultivate unconditional self-worth?
Unconditional self-worth is the belief that we are inherently worthy and valuable, regardless of our external circumstances or the opinions of others. It is accepting and loving all parts of ourselves, including our flaws and mistakes, and realizing that they do not define us.
Many of us have spent our lives seeking validation from others, whether it be from parents, friends, romantic partners or colleagues. We may feel good about ourselves when we receive praise or acknowledgment, but as soon as it's taken away or we make a mistake, our self-worth plummets. This rollercoaster of validation-seeking can lead to anxiety, depression and low self-esteem.
So how do we cultivate unconditional self-worth? It starts with awareness and mindfulness. We must become aware of our negative self-talk and internal criticism and challenge it with compassion and kindness.
We can also practice self-care and prioritize our physical and emotional needs. This might mean taking time to meditate, exercise or engage in creative activities that bring us joy. We can also set boundaries and say no to things that don't align with our values or deplete our energy.
It's important to recognize that we are all imperfect humans and will make mistakes. But instead of letting those mistakes define us, we can view them as opportunities for growth and learning.
Ultimately, cultivating unconditional self-worth is a journey, not a destination. It takes time and practice to rewire our thought patterns and beliefs about ourselves. But with patience and self-compassion, we can learn to love and accept ourselves unconditionally, just as we are.
“When you have unconditional worth, it's like you forget to doubt yourself. It's like it doesn't even come up, Somebody offers you Oh, here's this great opportunity. Oh, what would I like to do? Would I not like to do it? Rather than Oh, I don't know if I can.”
Tara has been a holistic therapist and coach for over 21 years, and is a specialist in imposter syndrome.
She is author of Amazon #1 bestseller 'Unmasking: The Coach's Guide to Imposter Syndrome' and creator of the Inner Success 8-week programme for execs to eliminate imposter syndrome and get back to being great.
Tara joins Audley on The Audacious Living Podcast for an in depth conversation on the imposter syndrome, the importance of staying calm and the lasting power of grace and confidence.
To learn more about Tara and her work or to take a free imposter syndrome quiz with personalised report, check out her website.
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