Episode #182: Stop Being A People Pleaser! Featuring Kristen Brown
“The best thing that I ever did for myself was take personal responsibility, instead of blaming everybody else because that wasn't serving me, it only continued my pattern. So I stopped that energy going there and I put all that energy onto me.”
Kristen Brown
Self-Love Mastery Coach | Public Speaker | Author | Podcaster
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As humans, we all desire to be liked and accepted by others. This is natural since we are social creatures, and social acceptance is one of the most important things for our survival. However, there is a fine line between trying to be a good person and being a people pleaser. Being a people pleaser can lead to a lot of problems, including anxiety, low self-esteem, and an inability to set boundaries. In this blog post, I will share some tips on how not to be a people pleaser.
1. Be aware of your boundaries.
One of the most important things you can do to avoid being a people pleaser is to become aware of your boundaries. Know what you are comfortable with, and be willing to say no when you need to. If someone is asking you to do something that makes you uncomfortable, then speak up and say no. It's important to remember that it's okay to say no, and that you don't always have to please others.
2. Accept that you can't please everyone.
Another key to avoiding being a people pleaser is to accept that you can't please everyone. No matter how hard you try, there will always be someone who is not happy with what you are doing. Therefore, focus on pleasing yourself and doing what's best for you. If you're happy and content with your choices, then that's all that matters.
3. Practice self-care.
Practicing self-care is another important way to avoid being a people pleaser. This means taking time for yourself to recharge and rejuvenate. Engage in activities that make you happy and lower your stress levels. This will help you become more confident and less worried about pleasing others.
4. Surround yourself with supportive people.
Finally, it's important to surround yourself with supportive people who respect your boundaries and encourage you to do what's best for you. Seek out people who have similar values and goals as you, and who encourage you to be yourself. This will help you build your self-confidence and become more comfortable with who you are.
In conclusion, being a people pleaser can lead to a lot of negative consequences. However, by becoming aware of your boundaries, accepting that you can't please everyone, practicing self-care, and surrounding yourself with supportive people, you can avoid falling into this trap. Remember, it's okay to say no and to put yourself first. By doing so, you'll be happier and more fulfilled in the long run.
“The turning point for me is when I stopped looking out there and stopped pointing the fingers at everybody else and blaming everybody else for what was being done to me.”
Kristen Brown is a powerful combination of wise mentor - spiritual advisor - personal cheerleader and best friend. Her compassion, warmth and openness provides a safe space to process through vulnerable situations. She’s the author of the best selling book, “The Recovering People Pleaser”.
Kristen joins Audley on The Audacious Living Podcast to discuss the hazards of being a people pleaser, why it’s so important to take personal responsibility for our actions instead of blaming others and the impactful difference owning our mistakes can have on our lives and so much more.
To learn more about Kristen and her coaching work or to subscribe to her The Sweet Empowerment Podcast, check out her website.
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